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Visit to the Kyles Workshop

I was so thankful when the team at Kyles invited me to their beautiful showroom and showed me around their workshop to see how their stunning jewellery is made. The Kyles Collection begun in 1990, when the creators Malkit and Nisha Dadi started designing their unique jewellery pieces. The brand is inspired by the romantic location, the creators original home, near the Kyles of Bute in Scotland. The lotus flower logo represents the serenity that the brand is all about. Staying true to their roots, Kyles jewellery have a large flagship showroom in London and their designs are shipped all over the world! You can view their amazing ranges at kylescollection.com. Read on to learn more about the brand and an in-depth talk-through on how their jewellery is made.

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Forced Marriages

To start off with I just want to clear the air about the differences between a forced and arranged marriage. A forced marriage is simply where the two people are forced to get married and have no choice whereas an arranged marriage is where two people are recommended to each other and they spend time getting to know each other (well they should but sometimes they don’t…) and it is their choice at the end of the day if they get married. I think there is a confusion in society about the differences between forced and arranged marriages which makes people think that a person who accepts an arranged marriage has been forced into it…

I don’t understand how someone could force a marriage on someone. How they could live with themselves knowing their children aren’t happy. It is usually favour giving in poor countries where young girls are  basically sold to men who are old enough to be their grandfathers… For example i recently read an article where a widow re-married but she couldn’t have kids so she got her 12 year old daughter married to the same old man just for one purpose… How horrific is that?! That poor child has no childhood ahead of her… No hope…  We complain about the smallest of things yet there are people in horrific situations, a hundred times worse than us. The stories of child brides make me die inside. The thought of a poor girl being thrown into the hands of a paedophilic man who seriously has no heart… All for a tiny thing.

I know I’m not a perfect Muslim but I’m sure in Islam a marriage should be a relationship where there is love and acceptance from both parties? It should be a relationship where both people go into it knowing what they have accepted and that they will do anything for each other. Not a relationship where a poor girl doesn’t know whats going on. Not a relationship where a person is unhappy and scared. Marriage is half of your deen in Islam so surely a forced marriage is turning you away from Islam and not bringing you closer to it?
Another topic of thought is this ‘cast system’ in the Pakistani culture. For years and years it has determined marriage. Are you gujar, meerpuri, choudhary?… Should we even care??? Will someone please tell me in Islam where it says to segregate everyone into minority groups? Surely we should be sticking together and not splitting ourselves up. I’m sure many of you will have seen the situation where two people cant get married due to them being from a different place in Pakistan… Surely we should be focusing on what the two people are like and if they have similar personalities and not focusing on things like their ‘cast’…. Surely a Muslim should marry someone who is a Muslim and that is all?

Right… Rant over LOL I just wanted us to think about marriage and what it should represent. It should represent love and happiness and we should choose who we are marrying because it is our lives that are involved in a marriage and not anyone else’s…. However that doesn’t mean to disrespect our parents choice because after all they know us better than we know ourselves…

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Men Vs Women… Women Vs Men

Gender stereotypes… We think that they haven’t been mentioned since the times of Hobson’s Choice and his shoe shop, but we can’t deny that they aren’t happening today…

The reason why I wanted to write about this was because it annoys me soo much. The fact that people think they are superior to others, when they’re clearly not. I’ve got to admit it is usually men who think they’re better than women so that is what this post will be focusing on. Sorry about sounding opinionated but people need to open their minds and change their views on men and women.

A key place where gender stereotypes arise are in marriages. Marriages where women are expected to stay in the kitchen and men are expected to sit on the sofas lol! Me being a guy who cooks and cleans, I understand how hard women work at home. There’s the questionable belief that because men go out of the house to work, that means that they work harder when in fact there are women at home who work twice as hard whilst looking after the children and the home. This is why we are all equal. We all work equally as hard as each other and are allowed the same responsibilites as each other. Yes, in Islam men should provide for the family but that doesnt mean women cant provide for the family too. There is no harm in a woman going out to work and a man staying at home to look after the kids. Yet there are some people who class it as un-manly and not right…

Another thing that annoys me is domestic abuse… I seriously don’t know how a man can dare to raise his hand to his partner when she has maintained the roof that he lives under. They may think it’s a butch thing to do but I just find it the most cowardly thing to do… A wife is meant to be half of your deen in Islam so how can someone hurt their wife emotionally and physically? What do they seriously gain from it? They should repent for what they have clearly done wrong yet they still go and do it again…

This leads onto the topic of sex determination of a child… In some cultures it is still happening where girls are getting aborted because for some strange reason they are a ‘burden’ on the family… Surely the birth of any child is a time of happiness and celebration so why feel the need to diminish someones life just because it’s a girl. A representation of this is the indian ‘amma ji’ drama on the channel called ‘rishtey.’ Where a mother and daughter were almost killed because of the fact that she bore a daughter and not a son… But yet they somehow find wives even though girls arent allowed to be born?

Anyways back to reality… Without women in our lives we wouldn’t be here today… without these women we wouldn’t have enjoyed our childhood like we have. On a more scientific note, all babies start as female chromosomes until just before 4 months of the pregnancy… So there you go guys, for those of you who think you’re better than women, you were a women at one time of your life. LOL

Some may say that I sound very opinionated and biased but I just care for all the mothers and sisters out there in the world. Ma Sha Allah I’ve never experienced any of these heart-breaking situations but I know people who have. The final moral of this blog is just purely about equality. Yes we should have our different responsibilites within a household but men and women are equal for we are all human beings inhabiting this Earth…

I hope I haven’t made you angry or made you cry, I just wanted you all to take a few minutes out of your day and think about one of the issues in the world we live in today…

Thank You

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